I had a short but phenomenal conversation in the gym last week, and it triggered some insight and a little self-evaluation.
In my life, I’ve failed many times, but in each failure, I’ve fought to find successes. Why?
Because failure isn’t an option.
With each failure turned success, I’ve built confidence, a desire to be more successful, and the realization that if I want to succeed I only need to do one thing. You’ll have to keep reading, I promise, we’ll get to that one thing.
Here are some common themes I can identify when it comes to failure.
I gave myself permission to fail.
I’ll do better next time, I’m not feeling it today, it isn’t that important.
I let my ego impair my judgment which forced my failure.
It isn’t my fault, it isn’t fair, I didn’t get the same chance as others.
I got comfortable.
Someone else will take care of it, I’ll do it another day, it seems fine – why change it?
I could go on for a long time, but regardless of how long the list becomes the theme will remain the same, I, I’ll, me, my, I’m.
Seems pretty consistent right?
Drum roll… here is the single realization I need to be successful.
The only thing preventing my success is the image in the mirror.
I view myself as fortunate because at a young age I was forced into an unforgiving world, one fueled by hate, rage, fear, irrational behavior, and life or death consequences for failure.
As I look in the mirror I carry that experience and I know what’s convenient, comfortable, easy, and sometimes the popular, probably isn’t right. I also know when I look in the mirror I need to respect, honor and love the person looking right back at me. I’m in control of my life and want to be at peace with that.
Everything in this world worth being successful at takes the relentless pursuit of excellence.
Every day we can wake up and choose to fail, or we can wake up and choose to be successful.
Regardless of the circumstances that surround us we are always in control – take action, take ownership, and be better people.